Avoid Xmas Meltdown!
Yes folks, it’s that time of year once again. Demanding kids, demanding parents, demanding partners, the ravages of flu, rampant commercialization… is there any wonder most of us lose the plot – and our tempers – over the holidays?
To help you ease your way through the family gatherings here are a few handy tips which I will be putting into practice myself this year.
1. Give your family your time and attention.
Much more than presents everyone loves to be seen and heard. So give your loved ones some quality time this Christmas. Be present. Be yourself. Don’t just shove the kids – and grannie – in front of the TV. Initiate conversation. It will make the world of difference.
2. Listen. All too often at Christmas everyone is talking over everyone else. And we can’t wait to interrupt and get our voice out there. Don’t allow old habits to get in the way. Who knows, you may find out something about your parents/relatives that you never knew before. Some common ground, even. Listening does take practice but it can be very rewarding!
3. Get some early nights. Many studies have proven that hitting the hay BEFORE midnight and getting at least 7 hours sleep not only keeps you looking younger, you’ll be able to think more clearly too. And give you patience for deal with irritating family members!
4. Drink plenty of water. If you’re like me and enjoy a drop or two of el vino – this is the party season after all – then make sure you are giving your kidneys plenty of support too. Oh, and don’t drink and drive, silly.
5. Make it a quickie! Visiting relations can be tiring – for both parties. So don’t feel you have to stay all day at Auntie Jean’s. Again, quality time is the key here. She’d much rather you give her your undivided attention for an hour, than pretend to be interested (or just check out and watch a movie or the football) for a whole afternoon. They’re not stoopid!
6. Pause and reflect. It’s sad to even think about, but every Christmas spent together as a family is precious. Who knows how many of you will be gathered again this time next year. Life is unpredictable, so make the most of your loved ones while they are still here. And tell them you love them!!
